Emily Beeckmans

Emily Beeckmans

By Emily Beeckmans - January 2nd, 2015

People seek me out to find peace in their lives. They feel challenged and overwhelmed. People often comment that I must have a very healthy life with my knowledge and expertise. However, it is easier to help others than myself. I often guide people to re balance and raise their boundaries to expect the love and respect they deserve. I ethically believe I can not offer advice I do not abide by myself. Solutions to find happiness need to be simple, easy and accessible to everyone, so this year I plan to test out everything and educate myself. Join me in my blog and social media as I explore the road to happiness through balance. I invite you to give me feedback and ask questions I can explore to help. You are my most valuable learning tool and I appreciate everything you offer 

By Emily Beeckmans - May 21st, 2014

Love & fear

With new love comes fear. As we mature, our previous experiences haunt us. When the pleasure of love hits, the fear of losing it is intense. The intensity of finding someone with whom you connect often makes you protect yourself against the risk of intense emotional pain. Our fear instinct is triggered when we feel rejection, anger or judgment. 


How can you balance these fears? 

  • Remind yourself to slow down and breathe. Understand the flutter in your stomach, tears in your eyes and inability to think logically, is your soul protecting itself from pain. 
  • Use positive self-talk to remind yourself that a relationship does not define you, but compliments your life experiences. Repeat you are worthy of love. 
  • Develop healthy boundaries that balance your senses. Enjoy being in the moment with your new love, but make time for yourself to affirm you are ok alone. 
  • Forgive yourself for previous relationships. Give back the pain, shame and guilt to those situations. Break ups are painful. Let your soul trust a new person through their actions then words.
By Emily Beeckmans - May 8th, 2014

“I have to thank Emily for being the person across the room from me when I knew I needed to talk to someone who knew nothing about my life. I had just found out that my spouse had been leading a double life, and had left them, and my best friend was dying with numerous different types of cancer. 

Emily listened to everything I was feeling and she gave me the greatest advice on how to find my happiness again. Emily gave me "homework" to do, which I shared with my closest of friends who agreed with every thing she said to me. When my best friend passed Emily was the one I called to talk it through on how to best work through my grief. Without her assistance my world would have hit rock bottom with no sight on how I would be able to crawl out of it. 
When I found out about Emily's own battle I felt absolutely ashamed to be sitting across from her crying about my friend who had just passed, and feeling so insensitive. The professionalism, and compassion that she showed just accentuates the strength as a person she has. Her exact words to me were " this is what I do, I am here to help you through your tough times, regardless of what I'm going through, this is what I am here for." I will never forget that. It may have just been a few months that I saw Emily, but those visits are what helped me find myself again, the new self, the happy and extremely grateful self. Without her help I wouldn't have been able to even think about moving forward, and now my life is amazing. 
There are often times I've wondered how Emily was, and thought about making an appointment just to tell her thank you. I hope she realizes that even a few moments of her time can make a difference to someone." 
By Emily Beeckmans - May 8th, 2014

Emily Beeckmans is there when you need more than a shoulder. Her speciality is trauma and life transitions. She's been there and back herself. With 17 years experience in as a therapist and advocate, the single mom has also recently (and successfully) battled cancer under the worst of circumstances.


Emily earned her chops on the front line. Now she consults for companies when they need help – from individual employees navigating a personal crisis, to an entire company dealing with situations like restructuring, industrial accidents, or an unexpected death of an employee.


Mental health can be overlooked by companies, but being proactive is good business. Burnout, overwork and exhaustion are common these days, and employees who utilize a company's counselling resources are far more productive. "It's WIN-WIN for everyone. The best employers recognise that this is an important part of overall health. Employees are more productive if they have a safe, anonymous place to talk about workplace or personal issues and offered the tools to help cope."


However, there are obstacles that prevent people from picking up the phone. "There is a perception of stigma, and a general misunderstanding of what psychotherapists and social workers do," Emily explains. "But people are starting to open up. The #LetsTalk campaign is making a positive impact. Yet even employees with counselling as part of their insurance package may feel reluctant to approach a social worker. While dental and prescription drugs are routinely claimed, getting counselling can be a different matter. "A person with a broken leg wouldn't hesitate to seek help, but if a person is in mental distress they are sometimes conditioned to feel that they should not burden others with their "drama". They think that they should be able to 'handle it' or should "suck it up." " Emily notes, " 'Should' is one of the worse words we have ever created. It makes us feel inadequate."


Another concern is confidentiality, Emily observes. "Clients want to know who they are dealing with. Trust is huge. Nothing leaves my office without their consent. I see people from every walk of life. Everyone is different and there is no one approach that fits all. There has to be a good fit with trust, and that's why the initial consultations are so important."


"Most people come to see me when they are already struggling," Emily says. "But you don't have to be in a tough spot before you ask for help. It's better to tackle problems before they become overwhelming."


So what are some common signals a person is not coping with a situation? "Not eating or sleeping enough or way too much as well as little things trigger huge emotional responses. People often say they feel raw and crazy, that they cannot focus or get anything done."



By Emily Beeckmans - October 7th, 2013

This is a test about why you should go to panama!!